In this installment of NPR’s series Inside Alzheimer’s, we hear from Greg O’Brien about his decision to sell the home where he and his wife raised their three children. O’Brien, a longtime journalist in Cape Cod, Mass., was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s disease in 2009.
Greg and Mary Catherine O’Brien have lived in their house on Cape Cod for more than 30 years. It’s their dream house. They used to imagine growing old there.
But this winter, as Greg’s Alzheimer’s disease worsened, it became clear that they couldn’t stay in the house, which sits on a couple of acres in a secluded part of the Cape. Greg doesn’t drive much anymore, and he’ll need more and more medical care in the coming years.
Plus, without Greg working as much, the house costs too much to keep up.
So the O’Brien family is preparing to sell their home. The process began with cleaning out Greg’s office, where he has worked as a journalist and writer his entire career. Sifting through all his journals and notes has revealed a precious trove of memories.
On deciding to sell the house
We made the decision, over the weekend, to sell the house. That’s a tough decision and, you know, as a working journalist I never made enormous amounts of money; but I was always able to take care of my family. And now, I’m wondering how I take care of them in the future.
The good thing is, I know that I have these memories, because they’re here and I saved them. I don’t know why I did that.
You know it’s so cool, when you think you’ve lost your memory and you know you have, but you have all these notes in front of you, and you have your kids. I couldn’t think of a better Father’s Day present.
On old letters Greg found while cleaning out his home office
It’s Father’s Day and the kids have given me a great present. They’re helping me clean out a bunch of memories in my office. I have, like, four boxes of notes, not knowing where I’d be today in the weeds of my memory. Notes in here about how the kids … snuck out [to my office]. Brendan writes, many, many years ago, as a little kid:
Hi Dad, It’s Brendan. Have a nice Day. I love you a lot. I bet you’re wondering how I did this. Love ya. Bye.
He figured out how to get on my computer and print.
Here’s another one. I remember [my daughter] Colleen had her first rabbit, Cuddles, and the rabbit died. And she writes:
This is the best I could do, Cuddles. I have included a box full of, along with this letter, your favorite song on a CD and a tape of me; your favorite food, celery, your brush and your chew toy.
I feel as though someone has ripped out my heart and stomped all over it.
I love you, Cuddles, and I will miss you. And many nights I will cry myself to sleep. I will visit you from time to time and I hope you visit me in my dreams.
Goodbye and I love you,
I don’t know, they’re pretty good memories.